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Your wedding is, first and foremost, about both of you: your feelings, your individual levels of religion/spirituality, and what you want to say to each other on your special day.
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Do you wish to have one officiant for your ceremony or two, one representing each of your faiths?
(i.e. a Rabbi and Priest, or an Interfaith Minister, Imam, Pundit etc.)
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What do you want your ceremony to say: to your family, to your guests and to each other?
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Do you wish to add cultural wedding customs or traditions to the ceremony? Ask your mothers or grandmothers for ideas.
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Understand that even when you ask others for guidance and advice, the ultimate decision is YOURS.
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Speak up, ask questions of each other, of us as clergy and of all those involved in your special day.
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Are you planning to have children? How would you bring them up? In which religion, or both (if this is an Interfaith marriage)?
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Little known fact: Interfaith couples pay more attention to how things will be done in planning their lives together, and how each religion will be honored, than couples who share the same beliefs.
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Your wedding day should be the most fun you have together as a couple! (up to that moment!!)
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REMEMBER- never instead of, always in addition to.